Some days, life has a funny way of surprising me with mysterious messages that are quite on point with what’s going on in my life. A former classmate (an intuitive healer) has Facebook Live videos every now and then. I don’t know what prodded me to watch her online, but it was a good thing I did. Her topic was how do you know if you’re on the right path. Basically, her idea was that if you feel a sense of relief upon deciding on that path, then it is the right path.
Honestly, no matter how educated you get, no one teaches you how to know when you’re doing the right thing for yourself or not. Sure, there are many people who’ll tell you what to do, but they’re not particularly concerned with what’s right for you. They’re just spouting off socially acceptable “right” advice.
Which leads me now to the message that stuck with me after watching the video.
“Let go of what doesn’t serve you anymore. What is for you will never pass you.”
I was like, “whoa!” when I heard that. I get it. How can you get started on your path if you keep lugging around baggage from the past? Those things will keep holding you back, preventing you from moving on to a better and brighter future. If you’ve been feeling stuck, then unstuck yourself. If what you have now doesn’t serve you any good, then chances are, those things are what’s holding you back. Let those damn things go.
Regarding the second line of that quote, it’s a test of your faith – whatever will be, will be. There’s no need to worry. There’s no need to be afraid. Whatever you want – be it a person, a relationship, a situation – it will find its way to you if it’s meant for you. Even better, it will never pass you by. The opportunity will see you, say hi to you and wait for you to grab it. I like that.
Thanks to technology, I watched Pope Francis celebrate Easter Mass early today. His homily was supposedly unscripted, which is impressive to do on such an important religious occasion. This struck a chord in me:
“The surprises of God put us on the path, they put us on our journey without waiting.
Is my heart open to God’s surprises? Am I able to go with great haste or do I hang back and say, well I’ll check it out tomorrow? What is the surprise saying to me?”
Having an open heart sounds easier said than done. Opening your heart is a scary thing to do because you don’t know what other people will do to you. Openness requires trust – trusting others to treat us well and be worthy of our trust. Those things aren’t guaranteed when you open your heart.
I think most of us live our lives guarding our hearts for various reasons. Maybe people have disappointed and hurt us before. Maybe it’s easier to close your heart than to get hurt again. Maybe being vulnerable is just a tad too difficult to deal with.
But Pope Francis asked the right question. If our hearts are closed, then we wouldn’t be about to hear what God is trying to tell us. If we can’t hear what He’s trying to tell us, then we can’t even get started on our respective journeys. We’re all basically puttering around in busy-ness that leads nowhere.
We all know someone who has a closed heart. I’ve been contemplating about this for awhile now because I’ve got a friend or two or three who seem to have closed themselves off to the love that they deserve. I find it sad because they’re really good eggs.
I don’t even know how to get the conversation started. I know what I want to tell them: After what you’ve been through, maybe you’re afraid of trusting people. You’ve been hurt and disappointed. You’ve placed your faith in the wrong situations and the wrong people.
But anything past that? I’m not quite sure what to say.
The thing is, love doesn’t get any easier as you grow older. It doesn’t get less complicated. It doesn’t get less confusing. It just is, the way it is.
I love these people really and truly, and I know vulnerability is a journey they have to take on their own without my prodding and pushing.