I had a brief chat with someone about friendships recently. I concluded with: “Friendships taper off. That’s just the way it is.”
If your offer of friendship gets rebuffed, then there’s nothing you can do about it. Why would you even want to be friends with someone who isn’t interested? Let it go. Some friends stay; others don’t.
The thing with old friends, some tend to keep you stuck in a rut. They remember you as you were. They can’t see or acknowledge how you’ve grown and changed. But that’s not your problem. Your growth is your own. It does not get canceled out by other people not acknowledging it.
Sad truth? If your friends aren’t keeping in touch, then they’re choosing not to keep in touch. Most everyone are constantly glued to their phones. It’s not hard to simply type, “what’s up?”
“They’re busy.” But who isn’t? Surely, you’ve also got a lot on your plate. You don’t just spend your days staring into space and dreaming idle dreams. Yet you find the time.
Let’s face it, not everyone is worth your time and effort. What’s more, life does not owe us friends. We make friends by being a friend to others and accepting others’ friendships. It’s an active process.